To throw my 2 cents in....
By far, above all others, the comment I was completely and utterly loathe to hear...."Pray about it"
Man, I can not possibly relate how many times this offhanded remark annoyed me
There I was, a youngin’ of small stature inquiring advice from people I respected enough to ask about issues sooo important in my life....and all they would tell me was to go "pray about it".
Now, I do understand the implications of needing to be at peace with God in light of your choices, but this always seemed to be a generic blow off statement that never did me a bit of good.
Nowadays, I ask my buddies about any given issue, and they will give me a straightforward answer. None of this "lets all perform under the pretense of holiness in order to completely circumvent reality and maintain an impossible standard that exists solely to magnify the failure found in others.Hehe, if you cant tell, this is quite the pet peeve of mine
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lucas
Lucas,
I'm right with you on this. Here's an applicable quote from another thread:
Some of the stewardships were downright silly. I spent about a year, dusting everything in the garage. The head steward kept trying to give me consequences. The white-glove test wouldn't pass unless he did it immediately after I had dusted things.
And yes, floors were cleaned, bathrooms tidied up, all after being used by other people.
The wierd thing is that doing stuff like this, out of a generous heart, to serve others is a good thing. The assembly training-home mindset was to force the appearance of these behaviors, supposedly thinking that they would become reality.
Generally, all I got out of it was resentment.
What binds David's and Lucas' quotes together is the phenomenon that in the assembly,
all of us followed a form of godliness, without the power thereof. You see, the
power of godliness is (brace yourself):
GOD!!! We had a
form, a
pattern, but we were so constantly overwhelmed with the demands of maintaining that form, of keeping up the appearance that we were performing in a godly manner, that we had lost the concept of actually involving ourselves with God in the process.
Our judges, those who ranked above us in the assembly structure, demanded so much of us so constantly that none of us had the time or energy to concern ourselves with the "why" of it all. All of us were supposed to be teaching our spouses, our children, our understudies, the spiritual motivations for the forms we carried out... But we were all under so much stress from those above us to maintain the
illusion of spiritual perfection that we failed to realize that our spirituality
wasn't supposed to be an illusion!
We were supposed to be teaching (and to be being taught) what "pray about it" means.
Why we pray; why we
can pray; what to
expect when we pray. In varying degrees, we were to have been
examples of prayer
--of GOD-- in action.
Likewise, in our stewardships, we were to serve the Lord through our service to one another
with gladness. I delight to do thy will, O GOD. But the rigorous pace demanded by our taskmasters (reflecting the pace demanded of them by their masters) took all the joy out of it, so that no one even remembered, much less explained,
why we did the things we did. The measures we should have been taking in joyful gratitude to our Redeemer became drudgery, and were actually meted out as
punishments!!! If you want your children to learn to enjoy writing, don't assign writing as punishment... If you want your athletes to appreciate running, don't assign laps around the track as punishment. If you want to teach
anyone the joy of serving, you must first embrace that joy yourself, then share it with them, and never use service to punish.
If not
the major difference, at least
a major difference between assemblyspeak and the truth is that
the truth shall make you free, while assemblyspeak will enslave you and cause you to hate the very things you do because the sense of being
able to do something will be hidden under the weight of feeling you
must do it.
Now Lucas,
buddy, that's as straightforward as I know how to be...
so pray about it!
al